Dating Is Hard

Stumbling Through The Adventures And Misadventures Of Dating With God's Grace

The Couple Clause January 3, 2017

Filed under: Advice,Blog,Dates,Dating,friends — blueyedflicka @ 4:11 pm
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Dating…it can be something of a challenge as we get older. Heck, it has always been a challenge for me. I’m at the point in my life where friends now start to tell me about their vacation plans years ahead of time. I’m invited to go…only if at that time I have someone to go with as well. That’s right, I have entered into a Couple Clause. *tick tock*

Has this happened to you?

I honestly didn’t know it had come to this. I had never, at 34 years old (thanks December birthday), thought of myself in this situation. Just like Tim Allen in The Santa Clause 2, I have been given an ultimatum. Although I may not be saving Christmas the sentiment is the same. I cannot pass go without marriage.

Why do other couples do this to their single friends? Has it  been so long that they have  forgotten what its like to date? Do they want so desperately to see their single friends married for some reason? Is it not possible to be single and Heaven forbid…happy?

I take this all into consideration when this is brought to my attention. Couples doing things. Couples going places. And I understand from a Couples perspective that it can be a bit odd having a Single friend there amongst all the pairs. It’s odd for me too!

The thing is, ALL people are single at some point in their lives. For some it is a little longer than others. And yes, there are those that choose to remain single for the rest of their time on this Earth. The point is to respect that, to cherish the time you can have with them before it all becomes about fitting one another into each others schedules.

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God’s timing and plans are far greater than my own. It’s hard enough for me to understand it myself so please don’t make it any harder. Be patient with me, my time is coming and it will be better than anything I could have imagined.


Sunflowers June 2, 2012

Filed under: Advice,Blog,Dates,Dating — blueyedflicka @ 12:51 pm
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Sunflowers (Photo credit: Johann Richard)


Why do people feel the need to lie about their situation in life? It will just come back to bite you in the end. I’m a bad liar by nature. It’s like a neon sign on my face when I do. Reason #46 why I should never play poker.


I went to a street dance after the stampede two weekends ago and had a blast. This woman likes her country swing dancing. I would like it even better if I could just “let go” and let someone else lead. Working on that. I had some very understanding friends who told me straight out to do just that. Sorry guys.


In the midst of all this fun I met an interesting fellow. He was wondering around, dancing with girls left and right. Disappearing and reappearing again. And as I was dancing with a friend of his, I was at the same time getting the story about him.


That’s right guys. Men. You gossip too. It may not be what you call it but it’s what happens.


And it is the most amazing conversations when you happen to let it slip out while in the presence of women. Men just let it fly. Women still try to give a little cushion when in the midst of gossip. Men just tell ya straight up. I love that. Rip the band-aid off!


So…anyway back to the dancing….


As I am being twirled around I am getting the goods on this guy. He’s new to the group. I’ve known these other guys for 10 years? And they are great. I learn from the guys that this new guy can be a little annoying, likes to stretch the truth on his profession (he works on a warehouse loading trucks but tells people he walks sunflower fields), and well, can’t dance. He looks like one of those toys you press and they collapse.


After we finish the dance my friend then starts in on some more stories. “Don’t believe a word he says if he starts telling you some stories…he likes to tell people the bend of his hat rim is cause by walking through sunflower fields…” Ha! Now this is really cracking me up. Of course this new guy is now standing close by so he’s seeing every facial expression I am at this point intentionally making in his direction. And he starts moving closer.


I just can’t help myself. I have to have a little fun. I’ve got a small mischievous side. So I say, “great hat…is that from walking through sunflower fields by chance?” It then begins. We converse back and forth and I ask the simple question of whether or not the sunflowers they grow are use for seed or oil. Somehow this shocks the guy (add in a little bit that he may be a little more than tipsy by this point). He asks me “wait..who do you work for?”


I told him the truth. Remember? I can’t lie. And somehow he still doesn’t believe me. He now thinks I’m some corporate spy from a competing company. This moment has gotten even better than I expected. I’m not having to work very hard to get this guys wheels turning. He’s doing it on his own now.


Can you see the sly smile on my face?


He then begins to rapidly ask me some questions in succession (your welcome big sis, I just used another big word in my life). I answer them all truthfully. He still doesn’t believe me. He even asks me my name and doesn’t believe it. Five minutes later he asks me my name again because he has forgotten it.


I kindly let him know that he already knows it. And I’m not repeating myself. He then asks his friend if this is true. To which he confirms that yes, he does know my name, no it’s not Megan, and no I do not work at a sunflower growers.


New guy looks confused. I tell him it’s all okay. He’ll think of it later. He still looks confused. He spots another girl or a pitcher of beer and walks off. Possibly still in the belief that I am a “spy”. I then turn to his friend and smile. To which he says, “that was the best.”


Needless to say the point to this post is no matter how honest you are somebody is not going to be the same. You’ve just got to be able to muddle through the mess and figure out what the BS is and what’s not. Most importantly don’t fall for it. Your better than that.


Like I told a girl-friend the other day, honesty is always best. I believe that. Not just because I’m a horrible liar. But because there is always someone who knows the truth and will call you on it whether you know it or not.


It also feels better and is the right thing to do. 😉











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