Dating Is Hard

Stumbling Through The Adventures And Misadventures Of Dating With God's Grace

10 Great Comebacks January 28, 2013


Ever get the question of “why are you still single?” especially around the holidays? Besides yah know, the every time you see someone normalcy. Or when there is a new single guy in the room and people try to pair you up, or on a date and a guy asks you? Cause, that’s not awkward. Here are 10 great comebacks to that question.

  1. Just lucky, I guess.
  2. Name one married superhero. Exactly.
  3. My mail-order spouse should be arriving any day now.
  4. Jesus was single. Would you be bugging him?
  5. Because no company is better than bad company.
  6. There are just too many proposals to pick from.
  7. What’s the rush?
  8. I don’t like to share.
  9. Haven’t seen anyone of interest yet.
  10. True love is worth waiting for. I’m not going to settle just because I’ve been single for a while.

The Bachelor Vs Online Dating January 23, 2013


I have to admit that I’ve seen The Bachelor, and The Bachelorette more than once. And every time it drives me nuts! All of these women or men competing over one person. Getting played by one another, drawing out people’s feelings for show ratings, etc. There is no way in heck that I could do that. Too much chick drama.

Plus, I’m horrible at hiding my emotions. I can keep certain things bundled up but faking whether I like someone…I just can’t do it. It’s like there is some big flashing sign on my forehead. Or a big red X flashes across like on Family Feud when the wrong answer is given, or in this case the wrong guy approaches.

Yet with all of my online dating experience I can’t help but start to see some similarities after time. Online dating is A LOT like The Bachelor. I had never really thought about it, because, well, it’s not as in your face as The Bachelor is. Then I had it pointed out to me by my last online interest.

Cowboy: “So I’ve gone on two dates with two different women since I’ve been on the dating site. And they both say they’re “into me” or “like me a lot”.

Um, okay? And why did he feel he needed to tell me this? Because I wasn’t doting on him like they were. I’m just not that girl. I’m not going to just throw out my feelings to someone I’ve never met, went on a date with, or even gotten a straight answer from in an email.

If you’re trying to capture my attention and heart…USE YOUR WORDS! It is the most annoying thing when you bounce around and don’t answer something I have asked or completely ignore it. I’m trying to get to know the guy, he’s got to give me something for me to want more and be interested. More on this experience later. Boy oh boy was it a flop too!

Back to where I was…which was…AH! Examples!

When your online dating you don’t realize most of the time that there are other women. Heck, when you’re dating period, you don’t think about other women. Truth be told, I do. More so when I am dating someone in person, in my hometown, who I can hear things about. Which is exactly like The Bachelor!

Sitting there watching as the guy your there for goes out with a group of women before you. He kisses other women and you hear about it. There isn’t a move made that your able to ignore. And that’s the way they like it, THAT’S what sells. Chick drama.

Not so much online. It’s like an invisible shield goes up and you think you’re the only two on the site even when you’ve looked at other profiles. It feels more close encounter and mysterious because all of the background chatter isn’t happening. Until it’s brought up, like Cowboy mentioned above.

So why is it so hard then to raise that shield in other forms of dating? Focus on the one person your interested in? Not let others intervene. Simple, curiosity gets the best of us. We want to know more, so we ask, especially if the guy is not spilling it himself. We want to protect ourselves from being duped.

Yet, sometimes we get in our own way. So what does it take for us to be able to step out of our own way, stop listening to all the chick talk, and just let things happen?


Honey Badger July 20, 2012

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Poor thing. She had to have her girly parts fixed as she is an outdoor cat. We don’t want more kitties running around the place. She just couldn’t leave her stitches alone so out came the cone…

It will be taken off soon. At the same time though it’s made for some funny moments watching her wiggle around.

She does not like the cone.


There Are Days When… July 12, 2012

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I want to be a Disney princess…

Cinderella (Disney character)

Cinderella (Disney character) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Why? Because they always get the guy, are pretty, great clothes, wonderful singing voices, and best of all heroines. Disney has found a way to take the image of a normally girly and not so heroic stereo type of snobby perfect females who were weak and couldn’t get their hands dirty into POWERFUL women.

In Disney’s latest film Brave the tag line is Change Your Fate. The lead character Merida doesn’t want to settle for what life has handed her. She dares to ask “what if”. Looking back on all of the Disney princesses this has become a theme over the years, with this years film stating it boldly in their tag line.

Brave (2012 film)

Brave (2012 film) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

So thanks Disney for taking the princess image to a whole new level, a much better level. And for making my childhood and adulthood memorable.


Ponytails June 28, 2012

Is it just me or does anyone else, women specifically, get irked by the heroine in a movie or TV show that seems to have perfect hair constantly? Even after having a knock down drag out fight with their hair down. After driving in their car, whether convertible or windows down. Pretty much in anything they may do, the hair comes out looking like nothing ever happened.

Supergirl (film)

See? She’s flying! With her hair down and it not in her face!

That SO doesn’t happen. Try it. Get in your car with the windows down while driving on the highway and just see what happens. Guys, since you obviously don’t have a problem with this, unless you have longer hair, please take note of the women in your lives. It gets messy, it gets knotted, and you just can’t see anything but hair. In your face, in your mouth, swirling around like a hurricane.

It’s just not good. Bed head amplified. So you can imagine how my gut twists a little every time I see a heroine looking like she just walked out of a salon. Would it be too much for her to just realistically put her hair back in a ponytail? Wear a hat? Bunhead?

One of the only characters that I have seen do this was Isabel Evans played by Katherine Heigl on Roswell. I think I actually teared up when it occurred. The characters were constantly riding around in a jeep with no top. Every time she got in the car she’d pull her hair back into a ponytail. I don’t know if it was Katherine Heigl’s idea or who but thank goodness someone got it!

Roswell (TV series)

Roswell (TV series) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I know it may not matter to the audience at large but it matters to some of us. You want me to believe your story line, right? Get a hairband and start off with a ponytail! I’m not even going to get started with the scenes where women wake up in bed with makeup on…clogged pores much?

Which brings me to another recommendation of a more realistic movie in terms of bed-head, bad breath, and dating. Have you seen What’s Your Number? with Anna Faris? I love this woman. She’s funny and can pull it off. At one point in the movie she actually gets up out of bed while her guy is laying next to her to brush her hair and teeth before he wakes up. See? It’s not magic people!

All I’m asking is a little more of this in hollywood. That’s all. Not too much to ask now is it?


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