I know that a town of 61,584 doesn’t necessarily constitute what most would think of as small. I’ve been in towns with around 8,000 people but it always seems like no matter the size, if it’s a rural town, it’s considered small. There also tends to be a lot of people who are related. If that’s not the case than everyone knows everyone. If not personally than through less than 6 degrees of separation. It’s just how it is. Have you heard Miranda Lambert‘s song Famous In A Small Town? It pretty much applies here.
In some cases it can be a good thing, but it can also be a not so good thing either. Both of these cases I’m referring to apply when dating. One of those lucky few, or many, who happen to be related to half the town constantly needs to check the family tree. Basically having to become the family genealogist just to keep things straight. Otherwise make it easy and date far out-of-town, out-of-state, or out of country.
The second case applies to those of us who know a lot of people in town. It’s nice initially to find someone who has mutual friends, Facebook usually comes in handy to decipher this compared to finding this information out through good old conversation. Distance doesn’t really become a factor, and the conversation can easily flow between stories of growing up in the town, and about mutual likes or dislikes. Typically being from the same area leads to a lot more in common with one another.
However, because everyone knows everyone, this can be somewhat of an issue as well. That guy you’ve been crushing on could have dated, slept with, etc., a friend of a friend. Chances are good that all you ever have to do is say his name to one person and the flood of stories begin. So how does one handle all of that?
Does it depend on the type of information? How much is too much to know? Is it giving up on the chance for love, or is it stopping heartache before it can happen? What should be the limit, if any, on the chances given for someone to show their potential?
I constantly hear that “you never know until you try”, “it takes the right person”, and other things in that line of thought. How do you know that your that person?
Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness. ~ Bertrand Russell
Dating in a small town is hard. Making decisions regarding who you date because it’s a small town can be even harder. Questions may always run through your head no matter what you do. Yes, I’m willing to take a leap, but I want to know that I’m not leaping alone and that the leap I’m taking is worth it.
You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back. ~ Barbara DeAngelis